What does 'create ritual' mean?

What does 'create ritual' mean?

Creating ritual is the simple action of incorporating daily practices, or rituals, that act as a point of presence in the day / As someone who finds being present incredibly challenging at times, this process came as a means of self exploration into the ways I could use tools, anchors and aids to help me reground, recentre + come back to myself when I was experiencing extreme anxiety, obsessive rumination + feeling like I had no control.

Over time, I have utilised many tools to strengthen my ability to be more present in life / As I learn + explore these pathways to presence, I have a toolbox of actionable, physical reminders + aids to help me move through life differently / From this place, I can cultivate a greater understanding of how I feel + how I show up in the world / By coming back to myself throughout the day, I began re-establish my relationship to self + the present moment...

 

Autopilot is such an unconscious, ingrained behaviour / We are creatures of habit / When we learn new things, we are vividly awake, present to the teachings, the informational downloads, the newness of our experience / Throughout life we can experience this newness, but it is more accessible in our younger years, when discoverability is a source of joy + we are more present to life, before we learn ways to numb out + distance ourselves in adulthood, after painful + more complex life experiences bring more fear or uncertainty / As we grow, we begin to shy away from presence, because we fear rejection, pain or failure.

 

Life itself is a learning journey / As babies, we learned to sit, crawl, eat, walk + talk. We didn't give up on ourselves / We tried again + again, trusting our capacity to succeed, we leant on the optimism + encouragement of those around us to cheer us on  / As young children, we continue to learn - to read, communicate, make friends, write + ride a bike without trainers / We put ourselves out there in the world, we nurture learning + new experiences as we would a sapling, with tenderness, care + hope...

 

As adolescents, we make deeper social connections, we cultivate preferences, refine our friendships + fine tune our personality traits / We also begin to have negative experiences + our lens begins to shift slightly, from optimism, to fear + uncertainty / As young adults, we learn to navigate romantic relationships, to drive cars, begin our first jobs, go to university, to move out of home / All these things were new, there were butterflies, it was challenging, but the hope + optimism we carried was alive + kicking / Exciting opportunities were out there, ready for us to discover / We still believed in our potential...

Then life begins to get more serious / We realise as adults our choices have greater consequences / We stress about our relationships, our finances, our social status, our health, our bodies, our wellbeing / Our cheer squad is less apparent / They might still be there on the periphery - perhaps our parents, friends or partners offering encouragement or advice - but few people are clapping for us when we get up out of bed everyday, or cheering us on for getting up after a setback / We have to be our own cheerleaders - but this is hard if we haven't been taught how…

When we find that much of what we've been taught through cultural conditioning, is that happiness is based on success or financial status, that advertising + the beauty industry profit from our insecurities, our hang-ups, our lack of self belief / We begin to question our worth, our achievements, we begin to measure ourselves by impossible standards, on outdated + toxic "age appropriate milestones" - or, on the success or failure of that assignment we didn't ace, or that job we didn't get, or that 'failed' relationship. We don't get a handbook for life / All the subjects we learn in high school don't really help us to navigate the complexities + challenges of adult life / Fear creeps in + we habitually become less open, less present - disconnected from our vivacious, powerful, authentic life force energy.

 

We protect ourselves, we cocoon, we hide, we numb out / We forget our brave + resilient inner self / We question our basic goodness / We forget all the terrain we've travelled, how far we've come, all the things we have mastered, all the times things went right, went well, felt safe / We begin to focus on the failures + the hardships, we forget how strong we are, all the teachings we've mastered, all the experiences we've navigated well / We begin to take off those rosey coloured glasses + pick up the darker lenses of fear + doubt / Things we used to approach with such interest + optimism (new jobs, relationships, making friends) become scary, we feel anxiety, self doubt, conscious of the potentiality of failure / We lose our sense of wonderment / We retract...

 

We autopilot everything / Waking, showering, eating, driving, working, conversing, cooking, relationships, dating, intimacy + sleep / Have you ever got to the end of the day realised you were hardly present for any of it? / Do you notice when, how + why you ‘check out’, how you ‘protect’ yourself through disengagement? / The point here is not to judge this habitual patterning, but to witness it + notice that how when we live like this, we miss out on so many little opportunities to connect to + enjoy life...

This is where the idea of punctuating life with ritual begins / This is where we can choose to wake up to ourselves + our lives / What if we could even just really be here, really witness ourselves as a human beings, living in this crazy, beautiful, complex, wild world we exist in / Maybe, if we found little moments throughout the day to come back to ourselves, we might begin to notice just how wonderful each little moment can be when we're truly there, engaged + present…

Creating ritual in your life doesn't have to be hard, complicated or perfect - you don't have to be particularly spiritual or follow a particular style / For me, ritual is still evolving in my life / I find being present particularly challenging at times + rituals are my way of piercing that autopilot bubble + bringing my attention back to the present moment / It's not a new philosophy - many meditative practices, the basis of mindfulness, the teachings of Pema Chödrön, or the works of Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" are based on similar principles - that the present moment can actually be our way out of the minefields of thought, rumination + suffering - right now, this very moment, can be our anchor, our reference point, our gateway to truly experiencing life, in all of it's tenderness, all of it's complexity + all of it's raw, unfiltered, un-lensed magnificence.

Elemental Remedy's ritual ranges are an invitation to shift + incorporate small ritual practices into your day, though the use of physical presencing aids that feel right for you / My anchors are the application of oils, a positive intention, a breathing practice, intuitive movement, yoga, stretching, a gratitude journal, the lighting of a candle, connection, laughter, nature, a reflective moment before sleep.

My aim is to provide you with a physical, tangible reminder to presence / All I ask is you choose be open with yourself to the idea of making little shifts in your day, that may lead to a greater sense of engagement + connection with your self, your environment + the lives of those around you 

- With love, Jessica Xx

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